Comparison is the thief of joy. ~Theodore Roosevelt
Just look at these beautiful berries! If given the choice, I’d eat each and everyone of them. Wouldn’t you?
As I sit here writing, I keep staring at each berry, picturing its taste, texture, and the feeling of satisfaction I get after having a bite. I don’t discriminate against one or the other, each has its own uniqueness that is wonderful to embrace.
Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy”.
It’s been awhile since I’ve read this quote, and as I sit here pondering what great words of Lizisms to share with you on this Wind Down Wednesday, I couldn’t help but keep coming back to this. I’m going to try and use those beautiful berries as an analogy, but Lord only knows how this will turn out, so bear with me!
Every morning I wake up to a slew of emails, notifications and messages from social media, reminding me it’s time to get up and get at it. However, once I get through them, I come to find nearly 70% of emails were spammers, half of the notifications were letting me know I had “x” number of people unfollow me, and the rest are things that interest me to read. Instantly, I feel a blow to the self esteem.
OMG -that was an awesome recipe! Declined again?! Are you kidding me?
Or, my least favorite…
No response?! It’s been a week! What am I doing wrong?! Why me?!
I then result to checking Facebook and seeing the slew of notifications that x has so many views, y got another gig, and so on. I compare myself to these other “berries”, feeling lost, hopeless and unmotivated.
Some days, these feelings can last longer than others; that’s when I get into the downhill spiral as Mr. CEO calls it. This sometimes ends with my face in a bowl of powdered peanut butter with chocolate chips. I’m being honest, no judging.
Since I shared with you my bad habits, I have been working on them, however I failed to mention previously the emotional habits that relate to comparison. I keep scrolling back up to look at that berry picture, because honestly, each is so unique in its own way.
It’s nearly summer and the strawberries are rocking the market right now, so I’d probably opt for that ruby red beauty. But come June when cherries are bountiful, I’d pick those. Point being, each and every berry has a season it blossoms. Sometimes it’s a great harvest and you have an abundance; sometimes the conditions aren’t right and only a few survive. Regardless, every “season” they continue to grow, produce more; because let’s be honest, the blueberries aren’t comparing themselves to the raspberries, nor are the strawberries to the cherries.
With May here and a fresh attitude to start this month, I’m making one final pledge to you, Simple Swappers, that I too will continue to grow, produce more (aka recipes) and stop with the comparison bull#$%&!
It’s time I remember to embrace the beauty in the uniqueness of me. Sure, there are many dietitians, fitness enthusiasts and wonderful people all over the Internet blogging, but there is not another Elizabeth Ann Shaw married to a Mr. CEO. There’s only one of me, and as I tell my clients, “You are beautifully and wonderfully made!” It’s time I take my own advice, and focus on continuing to do what inspires me. I’ve spoken before about my passion projects, and as I have this time in my career to devote to them, I need not lose sight of what inspired me in the first place.
Anyone care to join me?! Do you find yourself in a comparison battle? Let’s banish the BS, once and for all!